The Effortless Conversation System PDF download, by Jon Sinn. If I were an animal, I’d be a hermit crab. I am a very private person, but this trait never really bothered me. In fact, I used to take pride in it! But I’m now aware of the harmfulness of being too closed off: it chokes relationships, keeps me isolated, and sucks the excitement out of life. While a certain amount of privacy is good, too much privacy has caused me to miss out on opportunities and friendships. I like to feel safe in social interactions, but I don’t know why I have a sense of danger associated with vulnerability.